Relationship Advice | Relationship Problems | Love Problems & Solutions.

Waiting for the right time !

2012-02-09T10:10:00.000-08:00

Hi...!! I m ______ ,there was a girl in my school whom i liked a lot bt
never had such thing that i had to porpose her , i jst liked her.
After few months i saw her in a temple a couple of times nd i talked
to her , i hve never had an interaction with her bfore ,when i
approached i told her my name ,then i asked if she could be my friend
, she replied in negative nd went . After few days i again met her at
the same place n dis time she kept on staring at me til she passed i
did nt talked to her after dat i met her quite a few times bt i
couldnt talk to her, nw its been 3 years since i last saw her. I just
want to know ,if it is right to ask her now ?....i like her a lot i
cant stop thinking about her ...pls help me out?

Nick replies:

Hi,

There is no right time or wrong time if you love someone. Just express it.

Also keep in mind one thing, you can't force someone to love you, it happens naturally.

God Bless !

Finally I am on Facebook !

2012-01-17T09:35:00.000-08:00

Hi All,

Thanks for showing trust in me and sharing your problems with me. I have tried to be completely neutral in my comments with an objective to make your life more beautiful. I received lots of wonderful replies where they have expressed that I had made a positive difference in their lives thanks for those mails, I am honored.

I am trying to expand my bandwidth and try to reach to a larger audience with a dive into the social platforms. I dont know whether I will do justice to your expectations but I am encouraged by your responses and would like to take the next step.

I have built a page with my limited understanding of social media, you can find it at http://www.facebook.com/pages/Love-Social/298256730220001. Do spend time and have a look at it. As of now I have just started so you wont find much content in it, but you can always like it so that my little comments can reach you.

Thanks again and I am encouraged with the response that you people are giving.

Do visit http://www.facebook.com/pages/Love-Social/298256730220001

God Bless,

Nick !

I Do but should I

2012-01-13T23:34:00.000-08:00

Am VSC (female) From Mumbai. Age- 24.

My bf NA Age- 30

We have been in relation from last 4 yrs. in these years there was no gal who came in between.

My bf is extremely a soft guy. I couldnt meet in between for 2 months due to my family problems which my bf knows very well and he does understand it..

The gal neha who is in his office started being bit close to him. and he fell in love. Some two days back my bf cried so badly and i got to know from my Bf that they are going on from last 3 months and they did kiss eachother...

The 1st day when i saw her i told my bf plz be far from her. But he took it lightly.......

Now i am not able to digest this thing as i love him more than my life.

i told him watever happened forget itr and plz flush her out. he said i should not breakup with him. He wants to marry and he loves me only.

I accepted it. I told him i will never leave him.

But plz advice me how should i go about this matter.

Nick Replies:

Hi,

I am happy to see that both of you are very matured. To answer your question, I feel you should go ahead because your BF has shown the guts to confess what he did, this shows that he really loves you or else he wouldn't have felt guilty. I really appreciate you for understanding him, you are a great lady.

But just make him realize that you forgive him and you trust him more than anybody else and such deed in future will shatter you.

I feel both of you will have a wonderful life together

Good Luck & God Bless !

Past Haunting Me

2012-01-13T23:17:00.000-08:00

hello sir ,
my name is ............. i m a student of bsc (voc) first year. me and my boyfriend we met in last year in our phy tution.we love each other madly. infact i will love 2 say that he loves me much much more than i love or dan i ever thought.............. my bf's entire family knows about me.but my family is very very narrow minded only my brother knws dat i m in a commited relationship.but the exact problem is dat i had a very very damm bad wala past he knws everything abt it but i have a different kind of feeling dat i just wanna run away from my past and i don't wanna face it ever again in my life.i think i have already beared its punishment i hve already cried for entire 3 years for dat stupid relationship of mine.he don't have any kind of problem from my pst but i have built up a guilt 4 myself within me .i don't knw how 2 express my self my self but ya i reaaly knws is ki i just wanna rid of every thought of my past. i have a different type of guilt widin myself .which at times irritte him as he just don't wanna me sad or lost in my past ...............................

please help me

Nick Replies:

Hi,

See in relations you are happy or you get hurt. To be honest I have not exactly understood what guilt are you facing but I respect your privacy & would not like to invade it. Well as far my advice to you, FLUSH AWAY YOUR PAST. You will not gain anything out of it. God has given you a wonderful opportunity to be happy again after sending a good friend / partner to you. If he knows and completely accepts you for the person you are then you are one of the very few lucky people in the world, generally it doesnt happen. So be thankful to God.

And for whatever reason you are hurt or feel guilty, I am sure the person who hurt you must be happy and enjoying his life. He might be going to movies, having a relationship, and doing all things that makes him happy. Then why are you SAD. Just think about it, if that person has hurt you then he doesn't deserve to be in your heart and mind. Be happy girl, Life is short. Trust in God and be happy with your guy.

Remove all the bad thoughts of your past and if you continue cribbing over your past then it may damage your current good days and wonderful days to come, is it worth it ? ABSOLUTELY NOT. If the current person loves you give him 10 times back. Just think about yourself, this guy and your family. Unless and until you dont be happy you will never be able to make others happy. Be Happy, Be Good -- Enjoy Life.

God Bless !

Love & Pain

2010-08-08T00:30:00.000-07:00

hello,

first of all i would like to tell you, you r really doing good job to save the relationship...

i m in relationship from last 6years startings days was so nice so romantic after 7month everything went down into hill..

fight has enter, irritation starts frustation takes d new places in our relation.. just cz of not having a trust..

i found out my guy was having a online affairs with anothers girls and hes sending text to them with his email id and mobile no..

i asked him hes lie my friend did this from my id.. we had fight then you know in relationship on and off going on..

we joined d college together i saw there many girls r saying hello to him and not to me,, try to sort off but he didnt satifly me with his answer,,

i was start having a doubt that after finising d class he use to pick d girl from our college and doing droping duites . i never come to know cz i used to go home with my dad.. my dad is so strict .. i havent got a chanace to c him with whom hes going...

while writing to you my heartbit is pumping so fast and its paining too, then he start having a bad behaviour with me after 7month i mean i met him in 2005 so from janurary to august was good time after then that thier is alws screaming abusing hitting all sort off thing were going on in our relationship..

life was totally finished i was treating very badly alws torching i lost my freedom my momdad lock me at home

no purmission to go out not even for college, life become hell.

anyhow i covence my dad i complete my qualification but there was no enjoyment

from last 3years hes having a another relationshipp with some1 , hes making her to lisen my conversation , while talking to me on d fone he alws put me on d loud to make her lisen that wht we talk.. while talking to me on d fone he alws message her...

actually he doesnt have anything to spk to me just hes calling and talking to me for 10minutes and rest off time he is telling me to speak ...

he goes out wd friends he works he knows about life so wht he want me to speak , i m alws sitting inside of house not having friend due to restriction .

and if once i start speaking to him he cut me and trying to edit , its such a irritating things .

life is gone i m still crying when my hubby my jaan my baby wil leave this all ...

at last everyday fight i cant take it, he puropsley make me to feel that c some1 is lising our conversation or c i m riting text to her .when i ask wht was that sound he s like you r mentally ill, you lisen some noise but i cant, trust me while riting this all my heart is just coming out and screaming and saying its very unfair..

i had given five years and still with memories but i havent got anything and i never demand..

but he hurts me when he liying to me, i never want him to trouble but he alws create prob in my life

im full i dont want any guy

now i have taken a decision not to talk to him bcz there is no use.. its going to b 1week and i havent spoke to him

truely my sister is still in contact with him and she told hes still d same nothing change, for whom he is doing keepon messgin infornt of everyonecall n\making her badly gf to lisen each and every things..

this has been told by many person whom he talk to him

i have no soild prrof or evidence and hes still making fool

i cant rite more bcz my heart is paining very badly but i m really in love him, i wish he wil decided wht he want , i wish he wil feel whos best for him, there is no hope if im not there hes busy talking and chatting with another girls

is every guy do this? is every guy want keep d option aside?

i need your help to come out from all this//

his parents know about me they want him to marry me but wht is d use until unless hes mentally prepared. hes ready to marry me if in one week he cant stop talking to that girl wht he wil do after marriage, i cant go everytime with him?

hes not loyal also if he wil tel me i have in this serious relationship i wil accept him but hes not telling its horrible feeling

even i had a friend but i told him today in fight he taunt me with those name... if i wil go back to him wil he ever change? no o dont think so if he want to he change in one day... my younger sister told that my dad is looking groom for my sis , hes like good she wil b happy

his talking style is full of taunting, irritating., misbeahving. and hes not matured..

for got sake wil you tell me wht type of relation its ? its love its time pass its just played with my heart including his family

in my life wil i get someone who can just loveme? i dont k my beauiful relationship has changed into ugly ..

Nick Replies:

Phewwww that was loads of issues you are carrying in your head little girl. I think this might have consumed a lot of energy & time. See I can judge one thing from your problem, you are a victim of MISTRUST. If you were sure about he having affir with some other girls in the 7th month itself why did you drag this so long.

Because you stayed on with loads of doubt & restlessness it just went worse. You always feared of losing hin and the fact is you never had him. See, you should relax for a while, yake a break, go for a vacation with your friends. Give time to yourself from this relation, I feel you will definitely meet a guy who will just love for the person you are. Take deep breath & just understand that Love is a part of life not LIFE ITSELF.

As an immediate step -- GIVE YOURSELF A TREAT, GO FOR SHOPPING, GO OUTING & BE WITH FRIENDS. It would ease out a lot.

Take care,
God bless !

Boyfriend Confusion

2010-04-05T23:07:00.000-07:00

hi
i m in 9th std. I have my loving and caring boyfriend but after i accepted his porposal the next day my crush proposed me so what can i do???????whom should i go with????????my loving boyfriend or my crush whom i love very much.

Hi,

Very interesting :) . In 9th standard you have time to do all this--:)

Well coming to your question, always in life choose somebody who will love you. In the long run you will have a pleasant experience.

I would also like to tell you to concentrate on studies rather than getting into these relations. You have ample amount of time, you might be barely 12 or 13 and its a very vulnerable age. Do well in studies other things will fall in place at the right time.

God Bless !

Want my Ex back

2010-04-02T00:12:00.000-07:00

Hi,

In my life there was one boy in my life sine 5 years but he cheat with me for other girl he told that girl about me that he is not love on me and that girl also told him to live me but i cant leave without him i realy love on him he is not ready to talk with me he forget me but cant forget him he dont care about me now i want he back in my life please give me sollution what i have to do please help me.

thanx

Hi,

I have been continuously saying the same thing that in relationship you can;t achieve anything by force. If a boy doesn't feel any emotion even after 5 years then why do you want him to come back.

Leave it lady, that boy doesn't deserve a gem like you. Your love has been pure and that is the way it should be. I know it would take some time for you to adjust to the new phase of life, but trust me being strong would be a complete change in your personality. It will give a new dimension to your life.

Don't force him to come back. Start developing a new hobby, it could be reading. music , stitching, cooking or whatever, start it, keep yourself busy and MOVE ON.

YOUR LIFE IS NOT DEPENDENT ON ANYBODY. It is just what you create it. Be brave, love yourself and take care.

God Bless

School Love

2010-03-21T23:24:00.000-07:00

Hi i m xyz,

When i was in 7^th std a boy in my class used to stare me, smile at me, always finding ways to talk to me...... he used to sometimes aswel sing song

He used to be happy in my happiness and sad in my sadness slowly this continued and we reached in our 10^th std . me as well as my friend realised that maybe he loves me but he never confessed it to me. He is extremely shy boy very intelligent and thinks of the world more than himself. Now even i am in love with him . now he is my college aswel . i have confessed myself to him but yet he has not responded. My friends had smsd him askng about him but he replied that he is not interested in all this thing. But i love him a lot . what should i do now?

Hi,

There is a famous saying when love comes into picture - "Love is a free bird, set it free. If it comes back, it is all yours, if it doesn't come back it was never yours". Set your love free, love him but don't be possessive, if he has feelings he will definitely come back.

Anyway you are in high-school so concentrate on your studies, let him also study well. Let your love grow with time and it will be yours. Be positive, all good things will happen to you.

In the meanwhile you talk to him & say that you had confessed what you thought & that doesn't mean that he has to have the same feelings.

Keep the friendship & try to be a part of his feelings.

Thanks,

Mistrust in Love

2010-03-17T23:20:00.000-07:00

Hi this is xyz,
I have been in a relationship with agirl for the past 2 and half years
and ours is a long distance relationship,and all this while i have
been very possesive of her,i used to scold her if she spoke to any
other guy especially if she spoke to any one in the social networking
sites,so initially she used to tell me whatever she did, to whom she
spoke but after a series of such misunderstandings between us she
stopped telling me and i thoght that she had stopped speakin to other
guys.but just about a month back she had confessed to me that there
was one guy whom she had met in a social networking site,she had given
him her phone number and they became quite close to each other
emotionally though she never met him physically,she had even told him
that she was committed but that guy always used to advice her to break
off with me but she never wanted to break up with me so she told me
everything n even broke all contacts with that guy, but this incident
had devastated me and my trusts on her is gone.so i started to check
all of her emails and social networking profiles n found out that
there were many guys with whom she used to speak online n on the phone
with some but had never told me.she had even met 1 guy recently but
that was a very official meet not a date (as she told me) now she had
told me all the truth about everything, and even promised me that
these wont ever happen again,but i have lost all my trust in her i had
even asked her to break up with me hearing which she completely broke
down and started crying, I AM TOTALLY CONFUSED NOW, I DONT WANT TO
BREAK UP BUT I CANT EVEN TRUST HER A BIT AND WITHOUT TRUST I DONT
THINK THE RELATIONSHIP WILL LAST LONG.
I WILL BE VERY MUCH GREATFUL TO YOU IF YOU GIVE ME SOME
ADVICE,SIR/MAAM I AM REALLY BANKING ON YOU, my relationship is at
stake please please help me out.

Hi,

First of all let me tell you that YOU ARE NOT A TRUSTWORTHY GUY, sorry for being blunt but that's the fact. What is the problem if your girl speaks with a guy or even meets him, don't you meet any girls or talk with any girl. Does she create a ruckus about it ? I don't think so.

It's not a matter of possessiveness, its a matter of unwanted mistrust you carry. If you are in a relationship make it unconditional love. Based on your email I find that your lady is absolutely a fantastic person and the problem lies in you. Believe me if you behave in the way you are doing currently, then you don't deserve that lady.

Just see the commitment the lady is showing, even after continuous effort from a boy who forced her to have a break up with you she didn't do it. Don't you find a great effort put by your lady to this relationship.

Above all you want her to apologize for her behavior, I think you should go & apologize to her for your behavior. Understand one thing, being in a relation doesn't mean that a person is a slave of another person. Everybody has their own personal space & if you continue to behave like this then it is for sure that the lady will be uncomfortable & break this relationship.

Grow Up, Be happy that you are blessed with a wonderful partner. I am serious, go & confront your mistakes with her & take a smooth ride instead of doubting your partner.

Again I am sorry for being blunt.

Thanks

I love my Ex-Girlfriend's best friend

2010-03-08T22:33:00.000-08:00

i really need sum advice..
a year back i had dumped dis girl before her b'day..because of that i had spoilt my reputation infront of her friends..now after 1 year i like a girl who's her best friend and i dont know wat to do..,i dont think that she wud ever say yes to me because i was the one who dumped her best friend nd she wud think dat i will do the same thing with her..
please help...

Hi,

First of all I don't know what is the reason you dumped your earlier girl. If it was a genuine reason then there should be no problem in confronting you thoughts to the new girl OR else try to asses her feelings towards you.

Try to understand her feeling through some common friend and then take a next step. As I said majorly things depend on the reason why you dumped your ex-girlfriend. If it was a rude, selfish decision and her group sympathizes the lady then it might be tough for you to convince her friend.

Thanks,

God Bless

I Love A Girl | I am confused

2010-03-05T03:22:00.001-08:00

I have been seeing my girlfriend for about two years now and we have been living together for the last six months. I am 24 and she is 21, and we have similar goals in life and are very compatible. Our relationships was a shock to the both of us as we found each other appealing in a way we never thought we would. She is my everything and I am hers. We are very much in love and would do anything for one another. We are each other's biggest supporter. Although things are great, I have a couple concerns in our relationship that I am able to bring to her attention, but when we communicate about them, nothing ever really gets resolved. Our families and mutual friends are supportive of our relationship, but she is having difficulty telling her friends that are not mutual amongst us. I have told my friends about my relationship and when ex boyfriends contact me, I let them know I am happily taken by someone awesome. However, this is not the case for her. She will talk to them, and when asked if she is seeing anyone she always replies "no." I have told her several times that this is hurtful, but still nothing has been done. She is worried that it will shatter her reputation or friendships if they find out she is dating a girl.

Furthermore we used to be much more physically intimate. We are both not hardcore about sexuality and doing things on a daily basis, but we would fool around weekly. We have not touched each other sexually for over 5 months now. I have brought it to her attention that I find this time frame a little alarming and asked her if it is indicative of her wanting other things/new relationship/space etc. It is beginning to wear on me and I notice myself distancing myself from her. She asks why and I tell her its because it is apparent she needs space. She tells me she loves me and is in love with me, but I am just struggling to believe it now.

Four months into our relationship she kissed another guy but was honest and told me a few days after it had happened. I forgave, and never bring it to her attention anymore -- that is part of forgiving. Most recently she contacted an ex-boyfriend via facebook and told him that she was sorry she was short with him the other day and that she actually missed him. I asked her if they had been facebooking him and she said no. It was not until I had to confront her and tell her that I saw her facebook left open that she began to explain herself. This is also not the first time she has been flirty via facebook messages to guys. Her friends have no idea we are dating so she feels the need to look as if she is still interested in guys.

I love her very much, but her actions are beginning to show signs of warning. I bring these things to her attention and she thinks I am just overreacting because she loves me and would never do anything to hurt me.

So, what is my problem? Any advice?

Hi,

Hmmm... Honestly this is one of a kind relationship I am giving advice on, but then love has no borders , no conditions & no limits.

Well you both are in a sensitive relationship. It might be true that the other lady loves you a lot & would not want to hurt you but then she might also have started thinking about the conventional way of it, atleast on the physical side of things.

It is pretty natural for people to get inclined towards opposite sex, I think you should not worry about it, talk to her and just try to say that you are also sort of getting attracted to a male. See her reactions, if she supports you understand that she likes you very much but wants to get conventional.

Coming to your question, what is you problem -- Well your problem is "Over-possessiveness" . Its good to like & love somebody but don't impose love on anybody it eventually gets destroyed. Just give her the required space, if she is getting close to somebody else it is her choice well it definitely has you too involved but then a relationship happens with 2 people. In the meanwhile you also re-assess & analyze what you want on the long run, is it this or a conventional relationship.

Just take a break & think about it.

ONE THING I AM SURE THE OTHER LADY LOVES YOU A LOT & BELIEVES IN KEEPING YOU HAPPY. SO YOU TOO DISCUSS IT WITH HER & IF SHE REALLY WANTS TO GET INTO A RELATIONSHIP WITH A GUY, SUPPORT HER

Over Possesiveness | Love Problems

2010-02-23T21:23:00.000-08:00

Lately I've been feeling a little insecure in my relationship. Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 10 months. He is a very down to earth and respectful person. He shows me so much affection and I know we really do love eachother. Last summer for his birthday his brother took him to Vegas for 4 nights. One night he never called me which was strange because he's never done that before. The story he gave me seemed untrue. He said he drank too much and fell asleep and his phone was in the other room charging where his friend had been with a girl. I let it go. I recently found out he is going back to Vegas for his brothers bachelor party but he never told me when he booked it he had only mentioned he "might be going". Naturally, I was hurt that he didnt tell me everything and all the details because that isnt the way we are. We tell eachother everything. When i asked him why he did not tell me he said because he knew I wasn't happy about him going and he thought I didnt want to hear anything about it. A day later I found out he had met a group of girls when he was down there and his friend has become close with them so after there trip in Vegas they ended up meeting them out one night. He never told me any of this until now and I feel hurt and its making me feel like I cannot trust him. I honestly don't think he cheated on me or did anything like that but the fact he felt like he couldnt tell me these things hurt me. I feel like he isnt taking this relationship seriously if he's going to hide things that that from me. We spoke about it and he apologized for making me feel this way and hurting me in any way but I am still upset because I know if it were the other way around he would be so mad at me. Sometimes I feel like he doesn't think of me in situations and hes selfish. What should I do?

Hi,

First of all, take a chill pill. See the way you are seeing this relation is quite wrong. Both of you should have comfortable space & freedom to act. Being committed doesn't mean that everything should be done based on mutual interest.

He might have genuinely thought that you would be hurt and that's why he didn't say. Don't over stress on small things it would ultimately ruin the relationship. Whenever you guys meet try to have a fantastic time instead of talking things that would just spoil your & the guys mood. You also hangout with your friends when he is not there, have a ball & enjoy life.

TRY TO LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY - Trust me you will be the happiest person & your love will remain forever.

Above all you said that he is not cheating then what's the big deal. Give him space & you also consume your private space. Relationship is about feeling good not about finding mistakes.

God Bless !!

Confused in Love | Love Problems

2010-02-23T21:17:00.000-08:00

I am in a relationship with a girl from about one and a half years. The problem starts with a friend of her whom she knew a year before me. He had proposed her once before we got in a relationship. Everything was fine then. They became best friends. He made her sister. Then after a year of our relationship he started proposing her again and again. My girlfriend never told me anything. He started telling her he would kill himself, He needs her and all those emotional blackmail things. She told me all this after a month. She said that she even told him that she loves him. They were sort of in a relationship. I was hurt and asked her if she loved him? She said no and then everything ended between them after a few talks. But now the problem is that he is calling her again. He says her that he's gonna wait whole life for her, And he loves her a lot. She told me all this last time we talked. I asked her to stop receiving his calls, she said she cant do that. She says she has ruined his life and she feels very guilty for it. She said she has a very special bonding with him. That was all she said and then hung up. I just donno what to do. We havent talked since 3 days. I really love her a lot and want everything to get normal but now for the first time i am feeling like i am losing her. She doesnt even share anything with me.
Please help..

Hi,

I think you have started doubting your relationship itself. If you are confident about yourself & treat your girl in a very good manner, no matter what, the girl will not think of anything else.

Try to have a good talk with the lady & make her understand that you love her and want to take this relationship to a next level (I am not sure about your age, so do as per your age & condition). Try to build trust, if you are successful in building abundant trust from the lady's perspective then you are home.

Talk & try to solve and above all make her feel special and love her unconditionally.

All the best

Dual minded love

2010-01-03T00:44:00.000-08:00

I really need some advice. I have this really nice guy, who likes me and likes my child. He's been an in-and-out kinda guy though. He's always working or at school. But that's about to change as he's about to graduate. From college. He's kind, funny, good for my child and always makes me smile. I enjoy his company and love the ways we have so much in common. Now he's ready to spend alot more time with me and start to get serious. What's the problem you ask? There's another guy. I hate to say this because it sounds so... Slutty?... This guy is the one I've been satisfying my womanly urges with. Bed buddy? Something along the line. He got ripped apart by how a 6 year relationship (not me) ended. He makes me laugh, is a really good friend to me (not just in bed) and always has time to talk. But he's not ready to settle down again just yet, and not quite ready to stop partying. I know he likes me for me, because we've been friends a long time, way before we went there. He's not sure how long it will be before he's ready for a relationship. I really like him too, so I'm not sure what to do. Do I go with the guy who wants to settle in and go from there, or do I wait for the guy who is a wild card never knowing where he'll settle? Please give me some advice.

Hi,

I get a feeling that the first guy "loves you" and the second guy "likes you", hope you get the difference.

Well, do one thing, confess everything with the first guy and say that you love him but just wanted to be honest. If the guy takes a gulp and still is ready to commit, then trust me you have found a gem of a partner. If he doesn't, then too, you shouldn't be having any hard-feelings towards him as he is being honest, just like you.

But before the conversation make a point that you value this friendship a lot and you would not want to lose it at any cost.

Hope it helps !

Thanks for writing

College Love

2010-01-03T00:34:00.000-08:00

I have a huge crush on this guy and doing all kinds of wierd things just to see him and be near him.He probably just takes me as a joke since he laughs whenever he sees me.I got to know that he likes poetry so i wrote him this poem oon how its so easy for guy to approach a girl he likes but a no win situation for a girl.We are in the same college and he is my senior and I have seen him a lot of times looking at me and we wre in the treasure hunt and debate too but in his reply he said he liked the poem but he has no idea who I was and so I just told him to forget the whole thing and that it was just a dare but he happened to tell so many people and now people just stare my way.I know I sound all stupid and confused and thats because I am...I still like him in the sense I am all red when he is around,increase my trips to the washroom just in order to catch a glimpse of him...please I am freaking out here !!!help me out!!

Hi,

Probably you are one of the most wonderful lovers, anyway thats not the point.

Sometimes when you give over importance to somebody, the other person just start taking you for granted. Do one thing, just start ignoring him. Even if he is around just behave normally and dont acknowledge his presence at all.

Anyway even after so many attempts if he doesnt acknowledge your love then probably he doesnt deserve your wonderful love. Practice the ignorance act and if your earlier good deeds have impacted then that guy will approach you.

There is a love philosophy "Love is a bird, set it free. If it is yours it will come back, if it doesn't, it was never yours"

Good Luck !!

Thanks for writing

The Trust Factor

2010-01-03T00:27:00.000-08:00

hi i am very much confused abiutmy relation bcz i love one guy from past three years ago , he also love me , but his character is doubting attitude, he is not allow to talk with any one even with my cousins or friends ,if i am friendly with them he start connecting affairs with them only he wont think they r elder or younger than me plz get me a suggestion? wt shall i do ? but i love him so much , i cant forget him, plz get me a suggestion plz

Hi,

Tell him bluntly that you love him and you are ready for a committed relationship, but it is completely impossible to be a prison-bound girl who cannot talk with anybody else.

See, his behavior might be because of over possessiveness. Don't get into a fight but make him understand calmly that whenever he relates you with somebody else it is reducing the value of relation, his respect in your eyes and above all IT HURTS YOU VERY MUCH.

He will understand.

God bless !!

Thanks for writing

Lond Distance Relationship

2010-01-03T00:16:00.000-08:00

Hi Iam Sh...

I have a girlfriend and we both are very much serious.... even our fly members knows abt us so thier is no issue of getting married........ we both going around from past 1yr and 4months...... but as nw iam working in dubai and she in india......... she was very good earlier but nw as we agrue for everything and fight for everything .........i feel as if she not interested in me any more..........i want mental peace........ i asked her several times if u not happy then will break off but she says dont want.... iam totally confused....... plz gv me proper advice for this

Hi Sh..

Long distance relationship (LDR) has its own disadvantages, though yours is not exactly an LDR from the day 1 but yes eventually it turned out to be an LDR. See, if fight happens or argument comes up it doesn't mean that the other person is low in interest, there might have been some misunderstanding. So primarily try to understand the problem and then act accordingly. With you miles away she might also be upset and the problem might be that with all things favorable you didn't propose her before moving to Dubai. Rather than asking for a break-up, take a step further, initiate and propose her for marriage. Also send a cute gift to her, need not be expensive but something that will touch her heart :)

Hope it helps !! Good luck

Thanks for writing

SMS Love Mishap

2010-01-03T00:08:00.000-08:00

Myself MV,

Actually i m in fdalling in love wid a girl in my coaching but i think dat she doesnot love . 6 months earlier we were talking normally , but due to an sms we were not talking each other . so i just want to get back dat friendship., so the ques is how...? please help......

Hello MV

Love cannot be gained by compulsion or pressure it has to come within. The girl might not be viewing you in terms of a relation. You said there were some misunderstanding because of a message. Send her an apology message, meet up and confess your mistake. There on get her confidence and commit that you are just a friend and nothing further will happen. I think this should help.

If she gains some trust in you and she herself wants to proceed further then it is a bonus :). But at this juncture dont expect her to come back. Just be honest with your words & deeds.

Thanks for writing

Time Management Problem

2009-11-27T01:35:00.000-08:00

Hi there!

First of all thanks for helping everybody out there...
Well, my problem is; I'm with my boyfriend for more than four years.And I must say, the relation was not so tough before a year ago. I used to teach in a boarding school and I used to have summer and winter vacations with festive vacations in a year; so time management was not a big problem.

Now, since I've joined a new job here at outsourcing company, I can't manage time for him.sometimes I feel really bad when he has to wait for a whole day and I feel like I'm not with him when he needs me.I don't get holidays here at my office and sometimes I've to work at holidays too.I can't leave the job bcoz you know, getting better job at the time of recession is very hard.
He was okay few months ago but now the situation has changed, he says he has no problem with my mismanaged schedule.he wants me to give him some more time except holidays.He wants me to meet him at my lunch break but I can't meet him during office hrs.I've also run secretly from my office sometimes to see him. and I'm really worried that my co-workers might take it wrong way. "Date at office hrs you see"
I can't even convince him.

I would have married him so that I could manage time for but he has just finished his graduation and he is unemployed.Is there any way I can convince him?Please tell me how can I mange time for him?

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Hi,

This is a very genuine problem & I like the way you have expressed it.

Well to answer you, I think problem here is nothing but adjustment issues. This is a temporary, as you have mentioned you BF is still to find a job, once he gets into it he will also be in a similar condition like yours.

The real issue is that you are busy at work so apart from your BF you have other things to think, but your BF will be concentrating only on thoughts about you. So he cannot be blamed either. Just tell him that you understand that he loves you & thinks about you only but for you, you definitely think about him but in office hours there are certain task that needs to be completed. Dedicate some time for him whenever possible at the earliest and have a nice talk. Try to go to a movie or some other place where you will be in a position for a heart to heart talk, IT HELPS.

Tell him that you love him very much & once he also get a job both of you can settle down and then life is for both of you.

Let me tell you that this is not a big problem and could be solved just by honest, heart-to-heart talk.

Best of luck

Dating is like Marketing

2009-08-07T00:55:00.000-07:00

Dating operates in much the same way as marketing. Like a sales person you have to sell yourself. You dress up, put the product's (your) best qualities forward, and introduce yourself to as many people as you can. The more targeted the market the more people who are going to respond to you. Just like in marketing your fear of meeting new people will limit your successes.Imagine this scenario. You are going out to socialize with a lot of different people. You want this evening to be very successful so you put on your best clothing, brush your teeth, carefully comb your hair and splash on your highest quality aftershave. You cleaned out your car the day before and polished your shoes. Now that you look your best you are going to have to sell what you have to offer. That means putting away your fear of meeting new people.

Are we describing a salesperson or a person trying to find a date? Actually, the same scenario could be used in both instances. The little snippet could describe an interview, a sales opportunity, a local club, or even a date. There is little difference between them. The processes and skills use in marketing are the same ones used in dating.Just like in marketing you can even run statistics on your success rate. For example, if you are selling widgets you may have to talk to a hundred people to get one person to purchase your product. This means you have a 1% success rate. If you want to go out on a date you may have to meet a hundred ladies to find the few you would like to take out on a date.We can increase those marketing and dating numbers by targeting our market.

This would require us to build a customer profile. These profiles usually include demographic information like income, education, personal preferences, social class, etc. Once we know who our most profitable customers are we advertise in mediums where these people congregate (we go to the places where these women go).The more targeted we are, the more we are able to sell ourselves and the more people we meet. Preparing yourself in advance will lead to higher success rates. If you knew that dating was a numbers game it would make it much easier to put away your fear a successfully find a date. You simply need to meet around 100 women a week to get 1 to 5 dates. Don't be afraid to meet people and get out there and shake some hands. Passing out your business card would probably not hurt as well.

The New-Gen Team
If you are searching for a new friend or partner, or just wish to find someone interesting to talk to, you have come to the right place

I love a married woman

2009-04-22T00:17:00.000-07:00

i m 23, unmarried , male, an EC engg. i n gujrat,
i love a woman of 22 who is near our society,
but she is married her husband ,mother&fatrher in low live with her,
her family is so much conjucted and i can't express my feeling to her.
so how can i represnt myself to her and how can exi m contecr to her please help me

S

Dear S,

Stop being foolish and try to find a girl who is not married and can live life with you. This kind of infatuation not only disturbs your life but will also ruin the lady's family. Grow up and take mature decisions.

Thanks,

Confusion with two boy friends

2009-02-19T21:29:00.000-08:00

hi!

My friend confront me about his feelings he said he loves me so much actually he is my crush...
and i think i'm falling in love with him too. the problem is both of us are committed, he is nice and sweet to me,
you cant blame me why i'm falling in love with him while im commited cause my bf ( we are 5 years commited, always have mis understandin and etc to make our relation more worst, take note m parents like him so much) dont have time to me because of some reason and he always mad at
me with wrong reason, at first the confession of my friend is nothing to me but everytime i see things that different to my bf
i can't stop my feelings.
please help me.. what should i do..??

how can i dtermined whose the better between them,,

Hi,

I think you should talk to your first BF, understand things. If he behaving the same and not ready to change then you should think other way. You are committed for last 5years so there is an importaqnce to this relation so try to talk & sort, if it doesn't work and you feel the other guy is better then you should go ahead

Thanks

Sincere Love

2009-02-16T02:44:00.001-08:00

hi, i just want to hear some advise from you. i have a boyfriend who i think not trusting me.it just start as this, in my school thers a guy who courting me, he knows i have boyfriend and im not allowing him but he continued.one day he text me a message containing that he miss me.. the one who red that message was my boyfriend and i explained it to him who really that guy was. but he still not believing in my explanation, and until now he thinking of me bad. that im doing something whether im not. this make me feel so bad, and the effects this to me is imy self confidence is lessen cause i think anything i do will be bad to him..it's hurting me so much..

Hi,

I think you should spare sometime, talk with him & clear all his doubts. Even the biggest of wars can be solved with calm & composed discussions.

Thanks,

Article - Serious Relationship - How to judge a serious relationship

2008-11-17T01:05:00.000-08:00

Below is an article by Raphael Ekpenyong, the article is kept brief and clear so that anybody can judge the seriousness of his / her relationship. I found it interesting and probably it might be useful for you guys !

How to know a serious relationship
By Raphael Ekpenyong

It is often cumbersome and brainstorming to determine if the relationship you are into is a serious one or not.

In trying to do this there are some factors or things you must look out for:

1. The two parties in the relationship must have ceased to have personal secrets. They must have opened up about their lives to each other. If there are additional children i.e children out of wedlock.

2. The two parties in the relationship must have ceased to communicate or see singles. Their major aim is now to always interact and be with each other

3. The two parties in the relationship must have ceased to work on individual grounds. They should now see themselves as being one and as such work towards achieving each other's goal and aspirations. They must give 100% of themselves: mind, body and soul in the relationship

4. The two parties in the relationship must have ceased to participate in online dating and opt out of such sites by volition and not duress.

5. The two parties in the relationship must have ceased to be obsessed towards each and face the reality and settle down to the real business of relationship.

6. The two parties in the relationship must have ceased to be thinking and seeing each other as two separate entities.

7. The two parties in the relationship must have ceased to distrust each other. They must now have 100% trust for each other

8. The two parties in the relationship must be plain and truthful to each other

For more resources visit http://www.1accordromance.com
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Raphael_Ekpenyong

I Love the same guy

2008-11-13T01:11:00.000-08:00

hi im in grade 11 girl!!!one of my friend loves a guy truly!!!!that guy acted as if he loved her then after some time he ditched her badly he started spreadin rumours about her!!!actually the guy she loves is the guy I love!she comes to me everyday and starts cryin in front of me!she says plzzz help me but at last I luv that guy!!wat to do plzzzzzzzz help!!!!

Hi,

Trust me -- If a guy can't respect a woman & spread rumours about her then he doesn't deserve anybody's love. Make her understand & you also understand. He is not the right guy for a relationship. The same thing can happen to you too, he can spread rumours about you. So beware of these kind of people.

Thanks,

Love Problem - He has started ignoring me

2008-11-09T20:59:00.000-08:00

hii m in relationship with this guy for 4 years now.but now he is ignoring me without any reasons when i asked him that u have changed and trying to avoid me he says no i m the same.i even asked him to break up but he is even not ready for that.whenever i try to call him he is always buzy on the phone with someone when i asked him who was there he always give me stupid reasons.i love him very much dont want to leave him what should i do?

Hi,

I think you should stop asking him the same stuff time & again, avoid calling him and let him call. Try this for a week, if he calls you then you should understand that he has feelings for you if he doesnt talk with him and understand what is the problem. If both of you are not comfortable then there is no meaning of a uncomfortable forced relationship.

Thanks,

School Love

2008-11-09T20:50:00.000-08:00

m a 15 yr old girl.2 months before a boy in my class proposed me after he broke up with the previous one .he was in love with a girl two yrs younger than him.that girl is still his friend. in the beginning, he was really good and romantic sought but from few days he hardly talks to me.our class teacher is very doubtful and strict,so we dont talk in front of her.but i think he is ignoring me and still having something with that girl.please reply early.i hope u dont reveal my id

Hi Ash,
It's true that love has no age & it starts happening at your age. First of all understand if its love or infatuation. Boys at this age just love to roam around with girls so understand whether he is really serious and honestly you are very young to be committed. Enjoy life dear, there are many good things in life.. Enjoy it. Commitment can come later. Dont get tensed by these things so early, enjoy friendship, enjoy relationship with parents & give time to yourself. I would suggest strongly that dont get into any kind of relationship commitments as of now, gradually it will start restricting you for many things. Every thing should be done at its time and I know love happens instantaneously, but try to be friends first -- understand each other & then go for the next step, give time to yoursef & your partner.

Thanks,

Phone Love

2008-10-27T02:23:00.000-07:00

helo,

my story is so different, first time i meet her like this:
i dialled a wrong number.

At first she scoulded me, but after 3 days she became very close to me, from that time am in love with her,
every day we will chat on mobile it'self, after some days, she got medical seat at CMC
she went there, and called me one day. after that every day she calling me or i will call to her friend's mobile to talk with her
yesturday i proposed my "Love", she exactly said like this:
" hey you are my gud friend na? why u said like this? i never expected des from..
my mood is not good, i can't getting how to react for this?"

am very sad..

i dont know what she really said..
plz help me..
1 more thing, till now i didn't seen her. (Love without seeing her).

Hi,

Call her & apologize. Tell her that you are sorry and probably rushed into conclusions. Just inform her that you expressed your feelings. Also say that you will accept whatever she says and wrequest her to continue your friendship

Thanks,

Money Matters

2008-10-27T02:20:00.001-07:00

hello: Neptunei am an 18 year-old grade 12 boy.I attend school in one of the good schools in my town.i am in love with a grade 11 girl.When i proposed her, she accepted my love.But not so long, one of my teachers proposed to her now she does not even talk to me,when she does she talks to me as if i am a little boy.She even said that once i have a car and a cellphone, i can come back to talk to her.I am angry with my teacher.I love this girl.I visualized her as my future wife.what should i do? Get rid of the teacher and the girl or myself?"please help!please give more advices by looking at both sides of human rights.

Hi,

See if the lady is asking for materialistic things then probably she dont deserve your love. Try to understand people, watch around there are much better people who will care for you rather than the things you give.

Thanks,

He has changed

2008-10-27T02:15:00.000-07:00

hello, i am 20years old and in a relation with a person who is 6 months older to me for three years , in the beginning of the relation every thing worked well but from when he joined college he started changing , we talk each day but hardly for 10mins , he is in his 3rd year , he is also involved in politics , he promised to marry me & we had physical relation too, but now he is finding trouble in the relations, if i call him he feels irritated , he says he is very busy &doesn't have time to meet me regularly , we meet for once in a month, on small issues he speaks of break up, but i love him truely, what should i do? please help me out.

Hi dear,

Understand one thing, in love the most important things are trust & respect. If your lover doesn't respect you then you should maintain your self respect & act accordingly. Your lover might be busy & might be in some tension.

Try to speak with him in person and sort the issue. Speak out your mind he will definitely understand.

Thanks,

I want my love back

2008-10-27T02:11:00.000-07:00

Hi Dear sir, first of all i highly admire for helping people with love problems.

My name is asif and i fall in love with a women that broke my heart and left me in the darkness, in the begging of the relationship both of our feeling were the same and beside we had alot in common but now after four months of separation and knowing that at this moment she in relationship with someone else, i know that she is not inlove with person she is with at the moment and knowing that she still have feelings for me but that problem is that i cant get her back no matter waht i do and i want her back becuase i think is the right person for me. what do suggest for me

please advise

sincerly yours

Hi,
I would like to give a short reply to you.

If you believ in love there is a small rule in life.
"If you love someone, set the person free. If the person is your he / she will definitely come back, if they don't then it was never yours"

Hope you got the message.
Thanks,

Pre Marital & Post Marital Relationship

2008-10-16T05:06:00.000-07:00

Hi,I am 18 years old girl.i love a married man and he loves me too.My problem is that when it was just starting of our affair,we used to chat for around 2 to 3 hours daily..while chatting,we always did romance..but when i made complete physical relation with him(without sex),he started avoiding me..he would always say that he has very busy routine and does not have time to chat..from the last 10 months,he is behaving like this..he says he loves me truly and when i fight with him for this,he says that i am immature and should understand his situation.he never calls me and never let me call him bcz he wants to be cautious..we hardly talk for about thrice a month on phone,and when we talk,he does not talks for more than 10 minutes..he never replies to my sms now.he says we shuold contact each other via internet only..he replies to my mails,but he never initiates..moreover,he always appear invisible to me in messenger..he says he want freedom..sometimes i have to wait for about an hour to chat with him and even then he chats for not more than 20 min,,and that also twice or thrice a week..the same reason,he says he has very busy routine.we hardly meet.. we used to have physical relation too..when he calls me(once or twice in a month)he wants me to come to his place to have physical relation.we used to have physical relation about twice a month..and now he wants to go for sex also..we had it once,but i cant go for sex in future as i think i am deceiving my family.my family trusts and love me a lot.when i told him that i wont go for physical relation in future,he said that he dont wants to go for love any more and he will be my good friend only!!he is living alone here.his family is in other city and he goes every weekend to meet them.he has a child also..i know our love has no future,,but i love him unconditionally,very truly and deeply.please help me.it is disturbing my studies also.i am a non-medical student an this is the time for my carrier building.i have dropped a year for IIT,but i think about him most of the time and gets upset from his behaviour.i cant concentrate on my studies..i cant understand what is going on!i tried to leave him,but i could not.i love him a lot.non of my friend or family memeber knows about it.i cant discuss my problem with any one of them.please tell me what to do.pls do reply fast. confused

Hi,

As you have accepted in you message that you know this is not right even I would say the same. Just analyze that this relation is not only between both of you, this has to do with many people who are related to both of you. See just think, if you got married & your husband does something like this how would you feel - I am pretty sure you wouldn't like it. Think about his wife & family. From the sounds of it I don't feel he is into any commitment and he is interested only in physical stuff, thats what I gauge.

I would advice to stop this as soon as possible. Concentrate on your studies, it simple you can do it. Just convince yourself that what you are doing is wrong and everything else would follow.

Hope you would be convinced & agree with what I said.

Thanks,

Meeting him for the last time

2008-07-29T02:42:00.001-07:00

This is with continuation to your reply. Now anyways i cnt do anythn. he is gettin married in 2-3 months for his mom. he still says tht he loves me... bt i have decided to get far from hm. today i will meet hm for the last time and then i tot of stop callin him. can you reply to me soon if my decision is ryt or wrng. I will stop for his good, for him to live happy in his married life. please reply. thanks

Hey,

To let go is the biggest thing in life & we call it "SACRIFICE".. See love is for ever & probably your decision is perfectly right. Let things happen their way when it comes to relationship, and who knows there might be something better that might be coming your way. Dont worry & trust yourself & God.

I would say that you are doing the right thing. Wish him luck for future & I would like to wish a happy life for you. You are a good lady at heart.

God Bless

I want to solve his brother's problem

2008-07-27T21:06:00.000-07:00

You can call me Ann... Im havin a prob is that i love a guy n he too loves me alot.... but after i got into with him and in 2 days i came to know that he wnt be able to marry me because of his family probs. his elder had a love marriage but everythn was ok... the caste, religion everythn bt unfortunately becz of no adjustments they had divorced each other and my guy has been seein all this... i know he luvs me alot but there are a lot of probs in this... the prob is that he is a north indian and im a south indian. he is around 10yrs elder to me n he is not the same religion. infact there are only 2 probs and so he cnt marry me as he knows how his family will react and i dnt want to force him to marry me... i have told him that i wnt tok abt the marriage and wen he goes 4 hs marriage i will stop everythn..
here i want to do only one thing... i want to solve his bro's n wife's prob nt to make my route free bt i want to help him to bring them together.There prob i can explain....... They have the prob of tym... his bro is not being able to giv more time and the lady was stayin abroad so she has been in that way... they have a small child also who is living with his mom....... the prob here is that they have divorced. is there anyway that i can do to bring them together... thats all i want to know.....
please advice

~ann

Hey ann,

There is something known as fate, people can manipulate things to a certain extent but not completely. You try to concentrate on your life and try to make it possible. Try to convince the guy you love & if things go well go ahead. Try to convince him that things will not be the same as his brothers. I will also advice one thing, dont ever push him for a relation, just let it happen. Just try & dont worry everything will be fine. See Ann for you to solve his brothers problem, its possible but very very tough. Because they have realized that they are not comfortable with each other so they wouldn't think in a positive way, atleast not immediately.

So concentrate on your relation & try to convince your man.
Thanks,
Neptune

Friendship & Love

2008-05-19T01:37:00.000-07:00

Hii came across the blogspot and thought maybe you could help...i thinkthat i am in love with a former batchmate...it has been 5 years sinceschool but i can't stop thinking about her...during this period i hadmet her few times...our conversations hover around general topics....ihave an inkling that she knows about my feelings but she responds as abatchmate to my messages recently i have been thinking that probably she'd be happy without meand i should let go for her good...but still i can't get her out of myhead ...i am confusedmann

Hi R,

The best way to get out of confusion is to destroy the root cause of confusion. It is simple just talk with her. Convey that she is a good friend and request to be a good friend whatever her answer is. Express your feelings in a very sober manner & give her time. Even if she says no dont get disappointed give her time and be good friends.

Thanks,

Respect your partner's / friend's feelings

2008-05-19T01:26:00.000-07:00

hi neptune,

tis is sri..........i called her talked 2 her n she was saying tat as she was not interested ..but it seems she is interested in continuing the conversation ....i feel it.....just plz guide me neptune........is ther any way 2 work out? i was not disappointed..ppls say if there is a will, there is a way...so i must have some cool tips in my store naa.........so boss...u guide me in the proper way, being u r the wisest counsellor...

sri.............

Hi Sri,
See in a relation you should respect the other persons feeling too. I would advice that if she is not intersted respect her decision & give her some time. You never know going forward she might be interested. But as of now you should pause your expectations. You are right "If there is a will there is a way", and now the way is you be a very good supportive friend to her.

Give her time - be good friends. Its a lovely feeling to be in a good friendship . Dont over impose her with your feelings. Dont be possessive & restrict her. I am sure if you be a supportive friend of her she might start liking you. But remember one great saying "Love is like a bird, set it free, if it comes back it was yours if it doesnt it was never yours".

So be good friend of your loved one, dont over impose your feelings on her. Good will happen to you.

Thanks,
Neptune

Know your importance in her life

2008-05-06T05:14:00.000-07:00

Hey Sri,
hi neptune..........hru?.tis is sri.......... i asked her through msges only..budt did't get even one repply...i tried 2 call her ...but she was not receiving my call..but am sure she scares of sthing...may be..just tell me how 2 sort out tis issue...if i met her directly shld i ask why she is dng so ........plz guide me neptune............

waiting for ur repply

sri................

Hi Sri,

Do one thing for the coming one week dont contact her at all. No phones, no messsages, no chat & no e-mail. You should strictly follow this. This would help you in understanding what you mean to her, if she communicates with you then be very casual and respond only to stuff what she has asked. Just behave with her as an ordinary friend.

Do this without fail. If she doesn't respond then probably she is the not the proper person for you. I don't say she is bad I mean to say that probably both of are not made for each other.

Try following this

Take care & concentrate on other important aspects of your life too.

Thanks

Neptune

Misunderstanding in Relationship

2008-05-05T22:57:00.000-07:00

Hi,(I saw this site on the net and thought you could help.)I have or had an ongoing relationship with a girl. And we both told ourselves that we love each other. And a couple of weeks ago we had an misunderstanding and we nearly broke up but later we talked about it and solved it. After that due to some problems at home i didn't contact her for a couple of days but now when i contact her she doesn't receive my calls and turns her mobile off.I can't figure out what's going on and why is she doing this????Can u tell me what to do???or an advice would be great!! T.R.

Hello TR,

Primarily you should analyze the root cause of the misunderstanding
Try to resolve & rectify all the mistakes that happended from your side
Try sending her a text message stating why you couldn't contact her for some days
If you know where she commutes go over there without her information and try to talk with her
OR Text message her that you would like to meet her and request her to come
While doing all the above stuff always respect her feelings and try to understand what she has to say.

Hope this helps

Is this love ?

2008-04-09T00:27:00.000-07:00

Hi Neptune,
I saw a girl in my college, I liked her but she is from a different society. I mean she is high class girl and all her friends are high class. What should I do, should I approach her ?

M

Hello M,
See, there is a difference between liking, loving & infatuation. Just wait for some days, understand the feelings of yours. Even after some days you feel the same, approach her and see her reply. While approaching be very cautious as this would be very sensitive matter. Dont hurt her feelings !!

Thanks for writing,
Neptune

Cute Love Quotes

2008-04-02T05:59:00.000-07:00

Cute Love Quotes by famous personalities:

Love is a fire. But whether it is going to warm your heart or burn down your house, you can never tell.
Joan Crawford

Love does not begin and end the way we seem to think it does.

Love is a battle, love is a war; love is a growing up.

James Baldwin

I never knew how to worship until I knew how to love.
Henry Ward Beecher

Other men have seen angels, But I have seen thee, And thou art enough.

G. Moore

Came but for friendship, and took away love.

Thomas Moore

Can miles truly separate you from friends... If you want to be with someone you love, aren't you already there?
Richard Bach

Love is life. And if you miss love, you miss life.

Leo Buscaglia

If I am pressed to say why I loved him, I feel it can only be explained by replying: "Because it was he; because it was me."

Montaigne

I seem to have loved you in numberless forms, numberless times, in life after life, in age after age forever.
Rabindranath Tagore

I have said nothing because there is nothing I can say that would describe how I feel as perfectly as you deserve it.

Kyle Schmidt

Love Her, but she is avoiding me

2008-04-01T03:57:00.000-07:00

hi neptune

tis is sri.... i fell in love wth my cousin ..she stays in other town....jsut little bit distance 2 me...when i go home i used to see her....n rcently she came 2 know abt tat iam her cousin.....n interesting thing is tat i chat wth her...don't talk over phone much.. she did n'tgive me her all these contatct details actually ..i some how got them... so we had chat for some time.....n these days she is avoiding me.... i don understand why she is dng lik tis? n iused to read her scrapbook oftenly..is it the reason for online rejection wat's ur sincere advise to me.. plz help me in this regard.......

thanking u

sri......

Hi Sri,

See, first of all try to gauge that whether she is angry because of the fact that you got her details from a different source. Tell me one thing while you were chatting did you reveal you real identity to her. If not then this is the reason, might be she has understood your real identity. If you told her about real identity then she might have understood the feelings you carry for her and in some communities having a relation with relatives are not very much appreciated might be this is the reason she is avoiding her.

See these are possibilities, the best possible solution is talk with her and understand why is she acting strange. Understand her problem and just let me know, probably I could guide you better at that instant.

Thanks,

Broken Heart

2008-03-14T23:27:00.000-07:00

Hi,
I'm a 54 year old women, I fell in love with a 66 year old man. We were in a relationship for about 6 months. We were very happy, we enjoyed each others company however he broke off the relationship because he did not trust me or believe me. In all the time we were together I never lied to him or gave him any cause not to trust me. He broke off the relationship because it took me one hour and forty minutes to get home from my mothers. I called him about 10 p.m. to tell him I was getting ready to leave my mothers house. However I stood talking with my mother and left around 11:15p.m. and got home at 11:40. He got very angry and didn't want to talk or discuss any thing with me. I got upset and wasn't feeling well so I turn off the ringer and the volume of my answering machine. I took some cough medicine and went to bed. When I got up in the morning I saw he had called and left a message at 5:45 in the morning. I returned his call right away and he acused me of not being home. He refuse to believe I was home sleeping. He refuse to discuss the matter. I"m very hurt. I'm in a lot of emotional pain. I need to know how can I fix this. What can I do to deal with a person that is untrusting ? How can I make him feel secure of my love ? How can I convince someone who is very stubborn and refuses to listen or talk to me that he has made a mistake.

Help, N

Hi N,
First of all I would like to appreciate & thank you for the fact that, it's people like you who keep the feeling of love alive.

Coming to your problem:
See, the major ingredient to keep a love relation happy & ongoing is "Trust". You have been very loyal and trustworthy. I would like to ask some questions here:

Did you convey the complete message as it is to your partner ?
Did you tell him what made you late to move from your mother's place ?
Did you tell him what made you lower the volume of answering machine & why weren't you picking up the phone ?

Just tell him to meet you, make it a casual meeting. Tell him that you value & appreciate his decision but you would like to talk him for a while. I feel he would oblige to this request. Tell him the happenings that night with a clean heart, mind & soul. Express your feelings (I am sure you might have done this but do it again) . Tell him how much you love him and what is your mental state after this mishap. Express the fact that you are not at all happy without his presence in your life and he makes your life feel very special. Tell these things with complete honesty & innocence. If he really loves you he will understand you & your feelings. If he is not ready to meet you send an e-mail / snail-mail to him explaining the happenings

Even after saying all these things he is stubborn and doesn't trust you, probably he is not the right guy for you. Tell him patiently that probably his decision is right and you appreciate it because trust is the most important thing in a relation and in the relation between both of you it seems to be absent.

But I am pretty much sure that he will understand your feelings and this will not happen henceforth.

So sweetheart, cheer-up, express your feeling & leave the rest to the super-powerful "Almighty". One more thing while you say all these things feel very confident that you are going to convince him and get him back to your life. That itself will give you the positive energy to express your feelings in the most perfect manner. Don't be in a sympathetic mode because you have not done anything wrong. You have tried to maintain this relationship and I understand that you value this a lot too. I repeat again don't be in a sympathetic mode at all it will give more pain, accept the fact that you have been loyal to this relationship & somebody is challenging your values and dignity. So be strong & I am sure you will be able to convince him & continue this beautiful journey of love.

Ok dear, hope this works out for you. Hope for the best ...

Thanks for writing,

Neptune

Preparing for a date

2008-03-05T22:09:00.000-08:00

It might be magic moment for you to a date with someone special, and now you've got the chance to make an impression. Preparing for a date can be nerve-wracking, but can be approached in a step-by-step manner that'll assure you make it to your date fully prepared. The rest depends on one individual and that's YOU.

Steps
Do some homework.

In the days before a date, take time out to catch up with current events and hot topics. These are great conversation starters and you will be able to impress your date with your knowledge. Try to remember as much as you can about previous conversations together so you can follow up on them. Have a couple of funny stories or conversation pieces up your sleeve in case you need them.

Start looking and feeling good in advance.

Set time aside for exercise in the days before the date, whether it's yoga or push ups. Eat well and get plenty of sleep.

Pick your clothes early.

You should have several outfits laid out before the day of the date. This way you won't have any last minute panics when you realize you have a spaghetti stain down your favourite shirt. Plus, it will allow you to try on a few different looks on the day of the date and see which one fits your mood most comfortably at the time.

Clean up on the day of the date.

Take a nice, long shower or bath. Ensure you have clean hair and nails. You should smell good, but not overpowering. Avoid heavy perfumes and aftershaves, especially if your date could be allergic. Ladies, go easy when applying make-up and aim for a natural but groomed look. If things go well he will eventually see you without make-up - and you will want him to recognize you at that point. Shortly before leaving for your date, floss and brush your teeth thoroughly.

Think positively.

You're going out to enjoy yourself, after all. Don't start worrying about what disasters could happen, because that way they are far more likely to. If you are getting nervous, call a good friend, watch your favourite comedy show or listen to upbeat music. Loosen up. Focus on having fun and you inevitably will.

Be punctual.

Give yourself plenty of time to get to your rendezvous. Keeping your date waiting will start things off on the wrong foot.

Warnings

1. Be sure to always have a cell phone and cash for a cab so that you never feel you have to rely on your date for a ride home.
2. Always be careful about alcoholic intake.
3. Don't Do Drugs

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We fight a lot but we love each other

2008-02-22T08:09:00.000-08:00

Dear

I am in a relationship for 1 year and a month, where it is fine at times, and then we have are little fights... but then we have every couple of months these big big fights like basically if we didn’t love each other it would of been over along time ago!

but I got so many problems that build up to make these fights I don't know if it's me or my boyfriend?

I'll name the problems:

-Name calling- he calls me a bitch and slut and stupid, but then I call him names like asshole,jerk, stupid and etc. :(

Can you help me on this?

-I have a problem with him being around girl and that, it only started when he got really close with this girl like I don't think they did anything but they were like close like hugging flirting in front of me and touchy , and in my school most of the girls are like that.

so it bothers me when he looks down the hall or in class or etc and looks at certain girls I dislike because I feel he checks them out and says he doesn’t when I ask him? like i don’t know I just don't like him seeing ,sitting,looking,staring,talking,being touchie flirty with any girls cause of that one girl who just made me so mad that, that is what made us fight alot.

-Drugs like I know he doesn't do drugs but some of his friends do it and I would let him hang with them, but I don't trust him because he might do them with his friends behind my back, I use to let him hang with his friends and I would be all like yeah go for it but now I get all like no I don't think you should go because he did drugs behind my back when I left the province for a week and I phoned him everyday to tell him no drugs , behave and he promise he wouldn’t so from then on I've be worried concerned about me and this relationship getting hurt!

like I know it may sound like I'm controlling but the things that I am are the important things like I tell him to follow these certain rules like: No cheating, No Porn, be honest with me, no drugs, and no looking etc at girls!

Like I want this relationship to be happy again but there is just to much fighting but it's not only me I don't think!

Like we agree if we go to any parties we'd go with each other because it's not right to go to parties with out each other well it is just not right to get drunk and cheat kind of thing!

So that's fine but I don’t know I love him alot and he loves me alot I know we can't let go but the fights are just going to get worst like WORST! :( So please help me.

Also we use to go out alot instead of stay home and watch movies and etc and be by ourselves we use to hang with others now we don't and are fights seem more when we are alone with each other and not out?

And I never really like going out anywhere anymore? I use to but now I just don't know why?

so please if you can help me out and give me advice I would really appreciate that :(

-S

Hello S,

Well well well, so you are having a tough time. See in love there are certain things that should be considered with prime importance

1)Trust

2)Committment

3)Self-Confidence

You know what your main problem is, all the three above. You dont have any of the,. You dont trust your partner at all, you feel you are committed but definitely there is a gap and finally you highyly insecure that your BF might leave you.

See you have to be very composed especially in things which matter you a lot. You dont have to keep your guy pressing on the fact what he needs to do and what not to do. Give him space, its very important in a relationship. Just try doing this, ask him what makes him most happy. Try to get his feelings and what he thinks about the relation. What all stuff he would like to change in you, I am sure this might be depressing for you as you will be exposed to negative things of your but accept it and try to change it if they are wrong. Try to respect each other. Calling names at rare occassions happen but if its very frequent then that needs immediate attention.

After taking necessary inputs from him try to change that and do things according to him, I will bet that he will like it an there you are he is for you always.
Hope this helps,
Thanks,

Neptune

I am married & love another girl

2008-02-14T06:51:00.000-08:00

Dear,
i am a married person age of 30year. We have been shifted our house to another place where i met one girl who is staying just next to my flat and woth in few days i like her. So one day i proposed her and she said yes to me even she knows that i am married.Initially she calls me and send me messages every days. Even i got late in office she msg me to come soon.Now my problem is last 10days her behaviour is very strange. She never calls me and sned only one msg a day. When i felt that i should talk to her about her, she said that she still love me and because of her parent and her busy office schedule she couldn't able to call me.Pls advice that what could be the possibility of her behaviour like this because these is all disturbing me.

Pls help meRegards
K

Hello K,

First of all let me tell you bluntly that you are not on the right track of your life. There is a woman who has trusted you and agreed to live her whole life with you but you are upto something else. The other lady's behaviour (not your wife) might have changed because she must have realised that she is doing something wrong and definitely both of you are wrong. I strictly advice you to be out of this relation as soon as possible as this is going to ruin many lives going forward. I am sure I have not solved your problem but you yourself is creating a big problem. I am sorry I can only advice this much as of now

Thanks for writing,
Neptune

I love him but not sure whether he loves me.

2008-02-05T21:20:00.000-08:00

Dear Neptune,

i like a guy, from my maths class but i dont know if he likes me, too.He is friendly to me, he smiles at me and sometimes he tease me. He seems that he likes me as a friend. But there are times that he is distant, cold and nervous. Im not sure that he knows about my feelings. That's the reason i dont know how to treat him. Im friendly with him but maybe it is better to be cold and distant, too. What should i do?

K

Hi K,

It's a fact that love has no boundaries - age, caste , religion no bar. But If are very young then I would suggest to concentrate on studies. Well anyway I dont know your age so I would suggest you what to do.

See, you like him but do you love him. There is a significant difference between liking & loving. Loving needs a lot of commitment from both ends. If you love him, the only solution is let him know your feelings. Before saying that you love him "Hope for the best & Be prepared for the worst" - why I said this because if he also loves you nothing better than that but God Forbid if he doesn't be prepared to face it. There are times when people over-burden themselves with negativities so please don't do that. Express your feelings and make it sure that you convey him if he is not interested there should be no problem in your friendship and it should continue as it is. Friendship is probably the purest relation on earth and if it moves to the next step it happens to be the divinest. So 'K' go ahead, express your feelings - I will pray for you. And you said he is nervous & distant sometimes, just approach him at that time and ask him what is the problem. Probably you may not be in a position to solve it but atleast you can share it.

So Best of Luck

Thanks for writing,

Neptune

Distance Love

2008-02-03T21:43:00.000-08:00

Dear Neptune,
I have a big problem which is; I fell in love with ****** however due to distance we cant be together. For him to come would mean to have a visa and its not easy. He also works on a ship which does not make it any easier for our relationship and its hard to make it work or solid and so realize our true feelings. What can we both do?

S

Dear S,

It's good to fell in love, or rather I would say you should always rise in love. As the big preachers say, "Distance should not be a problem in love", what is important is the feelings, yeah you are absolutely right that conveying feelings is a bit difficult. But please understand that love has some practical obstacles and distance is one of them. The best thing is to cope with that. Well is there any possibility of you / he mailing you and continuing the communication OR either of you can call each other. If he is in ship, he might be landing to some place quite often and I think you both can communicate. It not necessary that both of you be in front of each other for expressing feelings, you can also take this positively that the inspiration to meet you will make him work more efficiently and the wish to meet him will make your days beautiful by thinking about him.

Don't take this as a problem, try to be in touch through any means, e-mail - phone - or snail mail (not sure whether thats possible from your side).

Work is also important for love to sustain, as love only doesn't suffice the need. If he is in ship probably he might be working for 6-7 months a year and the rest of the time he could be back home right? so that time can be utilized to the fullest. And I am sure the occupation he is might be through choice and not by chance so quitting that also is not advicable.

So my basic advice is to be in touch through whatever means possible when he is away.

Thanks for contacting,

Neptune

In love you need to express feelings

2008-01-08T04:36:00.000-08:00

Question:

she cann\'t understand me.but she is very sweet person

San

Answer:

Hey San,

First of all your question, I am not able to interpret completely but I will try to answer as far as I understood the question.

Assumption 1:

Well you want to make her understand that you love her, the most simple way of making her understand this fact is to tell her. Be a man and tell her, not like a street romeo guy, be gentle, polite , respect her presence and her feeling and tell her what you think / feel about her. See, until you tell this to her the default answer would be "No" now if you tell this to her and she responds it positively you have hit the bullseye and if she gives a negative answer there is no change in the situation (As the answer you thought was already no). So go and do the honors.

Assumption 2:

You folks are already in a relation and the lady is not understanding you. See, this is a problem of misunderstanding or a conflict of interest. Both of you sit and analyze what you are and what you want. How things should move ahead, personally I feel in a relation there should be no conditions and things should be as transparent as possible.

Well San, I am not sure whether you got your answer, but from a single line question I could only interpret this much.

Thanks,

Take care,

Neptune

I am a consultant and not an astrologist :)

2008-01-08T04:26:00.000-08:00

Question:

My lover name is k******** (As I committed I will not put any real names over here) when i will get married to her?

MV (No actual name inserted)

Answer:

Hey MV,

Well this is a fantastic question, I mean I can try to solve your problems but I can't say anything about the date of your marriage. Yeah I know a bit of numerology but that is not the crux / objective of the blog. If you have any questions / problems regarding you relationship (I hope not) we can try and sort it out but predicting the date of your marriage, tough task for me :)

Sorry Dude,

Take Care,

Neptune

Loving only doesn't work

2008-01-07T06:58:00.000-08:00

Question:

Dear Neptune,

I love a girl and she loves me, we have been going around for last 4 years but the problem is I haven not bought any gift for her. Whenevr I say that I will bring one she says that I will not take because I dont like it. What should I do?

Please suggest
Jack.

Answer:

Hey Jack,

It's good that you folks are going around for 4 years, I appreciate that. Well this is a common issue either the girls are very demanding or they are just reluctant about taking any gifts. Well Jack, see there should be gifts in a relation. The problem might not be that the lady doesn't like gifts, it could be that she might be confused / afraid of taking it back home. Afraid about the fact that what she is going to tell her parents. I would suggest one thing whenever you meet her just give her some chocolates, and once in a while gift her small goodies like keychain, a hand-purse or anything of that sort which would not be a problem taking home. Try this, I am pretty much sure the lady would be happy, but yeah if you start giving chocolates on every meeting make sure that you take them always as a habit because you are giving birth to an expectation so don't break that.

Keep writing.

Neptune

The Love Life in a Lovely Life

2008-01-04T23:32:00.000-08:00

I am repeating the blog description here again as I am not sure how many would have read the description.

Everybody loves somebody atleast once in his / her lifetime. Love is never a destination its a journey, a beautiful journey and in this journey there are innumerable factors that makes this complete. One of the factors are the problems that everyone encounter and most of the stories get finished due to unsuccessful tackling of these problems.

These problems do occur in everybody's journey and the one who tackles it and tries to solve it, is successful in this journey.

Why am I here

I am just here to be a part of your journey, only in suggesting you the possible ways of handling problems. Again the question is why should you trust me or listen to me -- well -- I have no specific answer -- the only thing I could say is probably two brains are better than one. I could be suggestive and possibly view the problems in a different angle than you as I am an outsider with a neutralistic view & probably could see the actual problem.

I am just here to support you to the extent possible by me.

You can write to me at lovelysolutions@gmail.com ( I don't encourage real names from you as I will be posting this over here -- So you could send me nicknames along with the post) You could be rest assured that your personal details will not be revealed over here.

Below is a quote from a lovely film "Love Actually" to all you lovely people --

"Whenever I get gloomy with the state of the world, I think about the arrivals gate at Heathrow Airport. General opinion's starting to make out that we live in a world of hatred and greed, but I don't see that. It seems to me that love is everywhere. Often it's not particularly dignified or newsworthy, but it's always there - fathers and sons, mothers and daughters, husbands and wives, boyfriends, girlfriends, old friends. When the planes hit the Twin Towers, as far as I know none of the phone calls from the people on board were messages of hate or revenge - they were all messages of love. If you look for it, I've got a sneaky feeling you'll find that love actually is all around " -- Wonderful isn't it, it touched me and I am sure it will touch everybody who loves to love.

Cheers to a Lovely Life !!